I know some people that don't adore Patti Stanger, but I don't pay attention to them. As far as I'm concerned, when it comes to the Millionaire Matchmaker host, bemused adoration is the only appropriate reaction. I basically believe that most of Stanger's advice for women is hugely false, or at least so context-specific that you should feel free to ignore it if you aren't in the market for a millionaire on a wife-hunt. Redheads, girls with curls: where I come from, an attractive girl is an attractive girl whether or not she comes with a dye job and a straightening iron.
But for men, Stanger's dating etiquette lessons are pretty much gold: do what you can to make a girl feel comfortable with you; don't be pushy but do go in for the kiss. But when it comes to sex, some of the advice is a little icky, and you might want to take it with a brine-load of salt. From Stanger's Twitter: "Women dry up downstairs when they have to pay the bills…not fun for anyone." Eeek, no no no no no. From the mercenary worldview to the graphic language, everything about that utterance is a problem.
And when it comes to style advice, Stanger's very particular: "No woman should be walking around in boho. It might look great on Rachel Zoe, but we all don’t have her body. How are you going to wear a tent dress and expect to get laid?" Mmm, Patti might have sex on the mind more than a normal person but she has a sound point: not every trend looks great on every body, so dress smart and don't be a slave to style.
Patti also recommends getting a straight guy to weigh in on your date night outfit: "Don’t go shopping with your female friends or gay male friends. What do they know about what will appeal to a straight guy? Take a straight, hot guy shopping to dress you for a date." I mean, straight guys do have something to say about style, but dragging one along on your shopping expedition? Seems like too much work for a single date. Setting yourself up to fail, much?
The real secret to dating success? Stop worrying so much. Don't overthink it. Don't worry about whether or not the guy likes you, figure out whether you like him. Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable and confident. Do only what makes you comfortable. And try to stay away from guys that have/will/would use Patti's matchmaker services.